Coping with Sadness
I will never ask you to stop crying, but I trust you can smile again.
Dear you,
Are you living with sadness, or have you lived with it at a certain stage in your life?
I guess, the answer is yes.
This topic is near and dear to my heart, as it has been part of my own experience in life and because I feel so many people are trying to deal with it without talking about it and without knowing what to do.
It is my firm belief that sadness is a completely normal and natural part of our human experience. Unfortunately, many people perceive sadness as something negative, something to get rid of, and as a consequence they have trouble dealing with their own sadness in a healthy way and feel uncomfortable when confronted with someone else’s sadness.
My own perception is rather different. I think emotions aren’t negative or positive, good or bad, as emotions are simply energy in motion, and when we experience very strong emotions we can choose how and in which direction we want this energy to flow.
My experience is that coping with sadness can also be an amazing healing process. Very often when dealing with sadness, we notice that it is somehow related to old trauma. We may feel we are going around in circles, experiencing the same pain over and over again. When this is the case, we actually have the opportunity to consciously deal with it and find the best way for us to solve and heal this trauma.
I see sadness as an expression of love. When I feel sad about something this means I care about it. It means I can experience emotions, and I think these emotions need to be felt, seen and heard, and expressed.
Sadness is like water. When it gets stuck it becomes cloudy and dirty, but when it flows it is a source of life. When we actually do something with the sadness, when we allow space and time for it in our life, we won’t drown in it. My younger self struggled with sadness, but since PSYCH-K® came into my life, I have learned to transform an overwhelming flood into a beautiful stream of love.
With PSYCH-K® I am able to come to terms with the situation that is causing me sadness as well as with the sadness itself. PSYCH-K® allows me to learn important life-lessons from emotions I am experiencing and to consciously choose how I want to live an event or situation. Then I can align my subconsciousness with these lessons and choices, so living from them becomes easier and more natural. Some of these lessons can be found in the beautiful Principles of Nature, for example the simple but powerful principle of Timing which is wonderfully expressed in the following fragment of the 29th verse of the Tao in the translation by Wayne Dyer.
Allow your life to unfold naturally.
Know that it too is a vessel of perfection.
Just as you breathe in and breathe out,
there is a time for being ahead
and a time for being behind;
a time for being in motion
and a time for being at rest;
a time for being vigorous
and a time for being exhausted;
a time for being safe
and a time for being in danger.
There is a time for everything. Sometimes it is good to deal with things alone in your own private way, and sometimes asking for help can be the best form of self-care. Sadness can be very overwhelming and you don’t have to do it on your own. If you feel it is too much for you, find someone to support you; a friend, a relative, a support group, a professional, ... Be honest with yourself and try to find what you think will be best for you.
If my words resonate with you, and you think I might be able to support you, I invite you to contact me so we can schedule a phone or video call to get to know each other a bit and see if we both feel I can help you.
I will never ask you to stop crying, but I trust you can smile again.
with love,
Annemiek